This might be the most important horse story you read all day, or at least one of the top three. I know a man who frequently visited Scotland as a child. His extended family there owned a business delivering milk in horse-drawn carriages. Among the horses in the stable, one was particularly prized by the family: the white horse whose name the man couldn’t recall. This clever horse had learned his route so well that he could walk it with minimal guidance. He even knew which houses to visit. (I don’t know if he could recite each customer’s order. The

A stranger once glanced at the cover of The Tactical Guide to Women and concluded I must be some sort of pickup artist. I understand the misapprehension, but he couldn’t have been more wrong. I’m the anti-PUA. The matchbreaker. The intimacy Grinch. I’m trying to persuade people to disobey their glands and rethink their relationship strategies — especially those strategies that squander potential and impede a values-driven life. For example, there’s the strategy of choosing chaotic relationships, in which a capable adult chooses a partner who struggles to manage the minor challenges of daily life. This partner is as lost