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The White Horse

This might be the most important horse story you read all day, or at least one of the top three. I know a man who frequently visited Scotland as a child. His extended family there owned a business delivering milk in horse-drawn carriages. Among the horses in the stable, one was particularly prized by the family: the white horse whose name the man couldn’t recall. This clever horse had learned his route so well that he could walk it with minimal guidance. He even knew which houses to visit. (I don’t know if he could recite each customer’s order. The


The Most Powerful Swimmer in the Kiddie Pool

A stranger once glanced at the cover of The Tactical Guide to Women and concluded I must be some sort of pickup artist. I understand the misapprehension, but he couldn’t have been more wrong. I’m the anti-PUA. The matchbreaker. The intimacy Grinch. I’m trying to persuade people to disobey their glands and rethink their relationship strategies — especially those strategies that squander potential and impede a values-driven life. For example, there’s the strategy of choosing chaotic relationships, in which a capable adult chooses a partner who struggles to manage the minor challenges of daily life. This partner is as lost


A Long Overdue Update

My apologies to those of you who received a broken email from me yesterday. That’s what we in the business call a misfire. It seems I’m a bit out of practice. I’m a little embarrassed to say it’s been nearly two years since I updated my website, but that’s not due to laziness. Most of my creative energy has gone toward video lately. For starters,


June PsychNotes

You’ll probably get the urge to yawn if you stare at this yawning dog. Why? Because you’re a kind and empathetic person, of course! That explanation, and more, in this month’s thrilling edition of PsychNotes.


About Shawn

My fascination with psychology began as a child, growing up in the family-owned bar. Watching my father defuse all manner of problems, I knew that I had found my calling. You might be surprised how clinically savvy a bar owner must be.

I worked my way through the University of Colorado at Denver with jobs ranging from security guard to loading dock worker, and earned B.A. degrees in Psychology and Communication. After college, I worked in such glamorous places as detox facilities and a home to troubled teens. I also spent part of each week with the Denver Chapter of the Guardian Angels for five years, where I learned conflict resolution skills from the best in the business.


I offer solution-focused therapy, always with your particular situation in mind. I don’t use cookie-cutter approaches, and treatment is always tailored to your goals.

In addition to my Denver-based clinical services, I offer coaching by video in the US and Canada. The coaching arm of my practice is geared toward men, but women are always welcome here too.